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02 December 2016

Make anxiety your b****.



I am an overthinker. I worry about things I shouldn't. I freak out when things get too much and find myself in a hole trying to hide from life. I've ran from opportunities because my brain worked overtime. I haven't had any anxiety attacks lately, but I still have loads of anxiety (thank you college). Still, I know what it's like to crawl into a ball and cry because everything is overwhelming. It feels like anxiety is in control sometimes and can become crippling. It's sucks and I know I'm not alone.

I've learned that anxiety is different for everyone. Just remember that no matter who you are, anxiety doesn't control you. Anxiety isn't who you are. Anxiety doesn't define you. I'm no expert. I've only learned from experience. 

Here's how I make anxiety my bitch and how you can make it yours:
  1. Sleep. I know as an adult or as a student sleep feels like a foreign concept. I learned that being anxious and sleep deprived is probably the worst combination. Sleep is your friend. I know it's difficult to sleep when that paper is due in less that twelve hours or there's just so much to worry about. Remember that your health is more important.
  2. Find an outlet. Apart from journaling, I've taken up photography again. I'm no professional, but I like to capture moments or things that inspire me and make me smile. Having an outlet can help take your mind away from what's causing your anxiety. Using something you love as an outlet would bring you joy. Joy means that your stress and anxiety levels are decreasing. That's exactly what we're aiming for. So take your pick.
  3. Have a laugh. Everyone bumps their head every now and then. Laugh it off. It's okay to make fun of yourself. Sometime we need it. Laughing is a true remedy. Having some good laughs per day will make anyone feel better.
  4. Friends. The beauty and positivity that comes from friendship is so underrated. Have a friends day. Go out or stay home and enjoy each others company. Surrounding yourself with amazing people will make anyone feel like the sun is shining directly on them even when it's not.
  5. Be Active. Stay hydrated. Eat better. I'm NOT saying you need to join a gym, drink gallons of water, or go on a diet. Hear me out. Being active, staying hydrated, and eating better is all about taking care of your body. There's your mental state. There's your physical state. There's your emotional state. All are equally important. When one is out of whack, everything feels completely off balance.
  6. Be positive. I can't stress this enough. No one is all rainbows, unicorns, and sunshines all the time. Try your best to find the greater good even when your anxiety you feel like your suffocating. I almost switched my major because I felt like I was losing my passion for what I wanted to do. That wasn't the case. College can suck the fun and life out of pursuing your degree. I just try to remember that everything will pay off. The brighter side of things is always the better side.
  7. Drink tea or hot chocolate. I'm not sure how many times I recommended tea when someone was feeling stressed or anxious. I was never a fan of tea until I found TAZO tea. It used to be sold at Starbucks. After tasting the Wild Sweet Orange flavor, I was hooked. I'm not sure how I went without it. FYI, I sweeten all of my tea. Can't drink it otherwise. Beside my new love for tea, tea itself soothes the mind, body, and soul. If it's winter and you don't like tea, drink hot chocolate. I've never met anyone who didn't smile after having a cup of delicious hot chocolate.
  8. Perfection isn't everything. These are words straight from my therapist. Sort of. I have a habit of not handing in work if it's not worthy of an A. I take pride in my papers. I like perfection. Remember that trying to perfect a paper is one thing. Trying to perfect life is another. There isn't such a thing as a "perfect" life. We can't control the curveballs life throws our way. We can only control how we respond to it. Just do your best and the rest will play out the way it's supposed to.
  9. Music make me lose control. Besides that line being from a Missy Elliot song, which I love, I believe in the power of music. Music brings people together. Music shines light on a clouded day. Music can help lift a person up when they're down. Music can be a person's go to for motivation. Find the tune that matches your vibe and all yourself to feel. 
  10. Gratitude. I've been anxious about the future plenty of times. What if I'm not a bajillionaire by 25? Honestly, who cares? Obviously we do. Instead of putting all our energy into focusing on the future, lets take a second and enjoy the present. Lets be thankful for what we have now. They're so many things to be thankful for in front of us and all we have to is open our eyes. Of course I'd like some Saint Laurent shoes, but I am thankful for what I have. Material things will come later. Right not enjoy the substance in your life. You'll see how amazing thing really are and how they could be.
  11. Talk to someone.  I have a therapist. I am proud to say that. I have someone who tells my anxiety to have several seats. I have someone who listens and helps me. Ty there are times where I try to avoid things, but my therapist is persistent. I don't get away with anything and I always feel better after our session. Even if you don't seek professional help, find someone who will sit and listen to you. Find someone who will not judge you and is open to discussion. Everyone needs someone to talk to. When all else fails, having a someone to lean on is what you'll need. 
I hoped this helps you in any way, shape, or form. If you ever want to talk, DM me on any social media platform and I will respond as soon as possible. 

Also, I hope everyone is enjoying this weird fall/winter weather that occasionally feels like June.
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